A doting boyfriend has been labeled “selfish and unwelcoming” by his girlfriend after telling her that he would no longer pay his friends’ bill on a night out.
The anonymous man, 24, started a Reddit thread to talk about his girlfriend’s friends, a group of five women, who often ask each other out at night or suggest great nights out.
When it comes to paying the bill at the end of the night, the whole group looks at you, a habit that costs you hundreds of dollars each week.
A man has been criticized by his girlfriend as’ selfish and unwelcoming ‘after telling her that he would no longer pay his friends’ bill on a night out
“I had had it, I told ‘Bridget’ that in the future I will only pay for myself and her, and whatever these friends ask for, that’s up to them,” he explained.
However, the conversation with his partner of three years did not go as expected.
“She feels that I am not being welcomed by her friends and she worries that if she tells them that her food and drink is in them, they will resent her for it,” he said.
The frustrated man said he’d be happy to pay for the group if the outings were less frequent or didn’t have expensive taste.
‘God forbid they have a bit of restraint, that they don’t order expensive food along with drinks. Do you ask for something simple? No, everyone asks for $ 14 wine. Last Monday, don’t ask why because it doesn’t make sense, the dinner bill was $ 667, ”he complained.
The man has a house and is more than happy to pay for his partner, but that’s where the financing ends.
“I think I’ve been generous over the years, it’s not that I’m complaining about paying for it because I know that’s normal,” he said.
But users commenting on the thread online seemed to be firmly on his side, insisting that he get rid of his girlfriend and friends.
“You’re the sweet daddy of the group, sorry, but she’s just using you,” said one man.
‘If her friends resent her because her boyfriend doesn’t buy everything from them anymore, they’re shitty people. If she cares about that more than she cares about your feelings, it may be worth re-evaluating the relationship.
But the man insisted that their relationship was solid gold, in addition to his friend’s expensive habits.
“This only started to happen once we moved in together,” he said.
Others said he was being naive.
‘You mean it started right after it got a lot harder to break up? Almost like he wants you to be trapped? Asked one person.
Some warned the man to be careful not to be “caught for a baby” by the woman.
But he said he trusts that she would pay his expenses if he lost his job because she has been saving for a rainy day.
“She is saving so she can get rid of you when it is no longer convenient, be careful,” said one woman.
Some warned that breaking their financial benefits could lead to the breakdown of their relationship.
“Just keep in mind that he might walk away if he feels like you’re pulling away, but it might be worth considering reevaluating your relationship anyway.”