A bride-to-be faces a fierce backlash online after revealing that she did not invite her transgender sister to her wedding to appease her transphobic parents.
Reddit user u / Ill-Yoghurt-482 shared his story on the forum ‘Am I the jerk?’, Explaining that his conservative parents refuse to pay for his wedding if his brother is invited.
‘I have a trans sister [who] She spoke to us about a year ago, but she had been taking hormones for the longest time and kept it from us until she moved into her own home, probably because our parents are very conservative and are known to be transphobic, ” she wrote.
“ As a result, there was a big fight and a lot of people in our family (including our parents) interrupted it and did not speak to her anymore. ”
Reddit user u / Ill-Yoghurt-482 revealed that he had to cancel his trans sister’s wedding invitation to appease his transphobic parents who are paying for it (stock photo)
Many commenters agreed that she was wrong, insisting that she and her fiancé were just as transphobic as her parents.
The Redditor said that she has ‘been quite supportive’, noting that she has been using her sister’s correct pronouns and the new name despite her family’s disapproval.
“I even make sure to visit her from time to time, while she hasn’t seen most of our other family since last year,” he continued. “I also promised her that if I got married in the future and when I got married, she would be invited despite any tension with our family.”
The woman went on to explain that her parents adore their fiancé and see him “as a surrogate child.”
“ Almost as a result, he’s definitely more on her side of the situation, and he’s made it clear that he really doesn’t agree with my sister or that he doesn’t like her that much, ” she explained.
Her parents ‘orchestrated’ her fiancé’s ‘very elaborate’ proposal and offered to pay for the entire wedding, until she raised her sister.
“I mentioned that I wanted to invite my sister, and they closed the idea right away, talking about how he disrespected the family and cut them off and all that,” he said. “ They basically gave me an ultimatum: to plan and pay for my wedding or for my sister to be there and they don’t come at all.
The criticism was so harsh that the woman went back to her post to say that she was turning off notifications because people are ‘misunderstanding’ and ‘ignoring’ her difficult position.
“I accepted my parents’ offer, because I really can’t afford a full wedding and because my fiancé pressured me to accept it.”
The Redditor admitted that his sister is ‘understandably upset’ but noted that he was ‘still inviting her to a smaller back on Zoom’.
When he asked other users if he was wrong, they were not held back. Many accused her of being as transphobic as her parents and her fiancé.
‘If it was me, I would go through the motions to screw them up. A ** hole like that doesn’t need clearance, ‘wrote one person. “In ten years, what are you going to remember the most? That your parents paid for nice centerpieces or that your sister couldn’t attend the wedding?”
“ One day she will look back and hate everything about her wedding, including her transphobic husband, ” another person commented.
Either you support your sister or you don’t. Using her pronouns and ‘even visiting her once in a while’ (how holy! / S) is not the amazing job you think it is, ‘pointed out another. ‘It’s really the bare minimum. And the fact that your parents give you a check with chains shows that they can buy you.
The criticism was so harsh that he went back to his post to say that he was turning off notifications because people are ‘misinterpreting’ and ‘ignoring’ the difficult position he is in.
“I hope everyone is happy,” he added.